Self-Esteem - We Can rebuild you!

Updated: Aug 28, 2019

It’s been a really hectic time here at Bemoore HQ so apologises for the lack of blogging in recent weeks. Firstly, I have been busy bringing us back to key topic of Self-Esteem ... for me it is the vital link in all things self. Secondly, I have been getting ready for the up and coming book launch of ReconnectYourLife and thirdly I have been doing some real long term thinking about the future of Bemoore and how I work to build a platform that truly supports women – including securing the first full trial of Roaring4Life – the new teenage programme...


But let’s recap on self-esteem...

· It is made up of many parts (as are we)

· It’s how we see ourselves...

· It’s how we value ourselves...

· It’s how we believe others see us...

· It impacts on our behaviours and our choices ...


… and it begins to form in our very first days.


Our self-esteem is like a platform balanced on many legs ... each leg holding up a different part of us... and if it strong and firm in the ground then we feel capable and able to work through challenges ... but if the leg is wobbly then our foundations are shaky ... and our overall sense of self can feel the same.


And although at the beginning of our lives we truly are at the mercy of those around us to create that initial deep, strong trench in which the legs are firmly placed … we know now that our sense of self however fractured or fragile can be re-built... not just shorn up ... but truly mended in a permanent way.




I had a reminder of this myself – this week I met a lady whom I last saw in my middle school ... we realised with some shock that would be over 30 years ago ... the meeting brought back many memories of a time when my sense of self worth was really low. I was in the middle of bullying campaign – I can’t really remember how it all started but it affected my confidence to a point I could not bear to walk to school and would be physically sick at the thought of it ... My sense of self worth was all linked up to my popularity (or lack of it), my lack of inclusion in the ‘in ‘group’ and it manifested itself in my self-image. To be thin was to be popular…


It was an awful time and looking back it must have been awful to my family. At the time I couldn’t have imagined being the person I am now ... the platform was so shaky it was in many ways falling down and unable to hold up any sense of self-worth...


But recovery of self esteem is possible and I am proof ... many things have happened to me since those days ... some wonderful some heart-breaking ... but throughout the years I have received support which have helped to stand those legs up straight ... put much needed cement in the trench and secure down that platform … things like the wonderful home schooling my parents arranged , meeting amazing friends who allowed me to be myself and of course therapy.

We had a great coffee and catch up and reminisced on memories and names I hadn’t thought of and didn’t even know I remembered all these years later ... and although some of those memories were unpleasant it was also wonderful to reflect on the fact that I am no longer haunted by them , I am able to know they are in the past .. but also, to accept that every experience has led m to being me right now right here … and it’s a truly wonderful place to be and I wouldn’t change a thing.


You are never fully broken, you can be rebuilt as they say ... you can repair, you can heal ... you can Reconnect!


I am passionate about creating a space that supports and raises self esteem for women. I look forward to sharing the growing plans for how Bemoore is scaling and building in order to make this a reality.


In the meantime, if you need support please contact me for a free initial exploration session.

© 2018-19 by Ali Moore (BeMoore) 

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